Dear Allen,
I’m sorry. I’m sorry I didn’t give you the chance I should have. Before we had even met, I resented you. In all honesty I would have resented anyone in your position. Six months after my grandfather’s death, and there you were, putting a ring around my grandmother’s finger. I felt like I was missing something, that it couldn’t have possibly been that short of a time because everyone seemed so happy for you two while my grandfather didn’t even have a headstone yet. How could someone possibly replace the father of their children so quickly? And yet, she did.
So maybe in actuality it was my grandmother, your now wife, I was harboring anger for. After all, she was the one who didn’t shed a tear at the funeral, who blatantly held your hand on top of the dinner table the first time we met. It felt like she was rubbing it in our faces, as if to say, “I’ve moved on and so should you.” But I didn’t. And I still haven’t. However, I see the good in you now. I see that she started her mourning three years before any of us knew he was dying and that you were simply there to pick up the pieces. It’s always such a mouthful to explain to people that I’m going to visit my grandmother and her husband. Perhaps I should have started this letter differently. I’m sorry I wasn’t able to sooner.
Love,
Your Granddaughter

I really saw your honesty shine through this letter. It’s always difficult speaking to a member of your family that isn’t “blood” but you were able to both write your grudges and be able to apologize for those that you didn’t think were right. I have a step-mom and I never know how to address her parents which is how you feel with your grandmother’s husband, but I’m glad you are able to come around to him and are proud to be his granddaughter-as you referred to yourself.
-Miguel Palacios
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I really enjoyed your writing and how you used this assignment to be honest with held in emotions. I understand where you are coming in a way as my fathers mothers passed away and my grandfather remarried. It is hard to accept new people into our lives as we see it as them “replacing” a loved one. I changed my outlook on it and see it as just more people in our lives to love us and for us to love them.
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Losing someone and (then replacing someone) is a pain that will never go away. And you will always continue to question it and have regret on things that you could back on. I’ve experienced this myself and I enjoyed reading this because I can tell that your feelings are very strong though this piece. I can tell that your mind is open more because of this past experience. Stay strong! Good work 🙂
-Mya Mostrom
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Abby, this is a truly beautiful piece. Its a very unique situation but I think the way you described how you felt is something when can all relate to especially when we were younger. The feeling of being young and not quite understanding what was going on especially when all of the adults understand is frustrating. And having the added layer of going through grief makes it harder. I like how you talked about being able to see it differently now that you’re older. How your grandmother started grieving 3 years before anyone else did. And I love you you sign it “your granddaughter” it honestly made me tear up a bit.
– Brianna O’Doherty
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